If you’re a fan of The Bachelor or Bachelorette, you may have heard of Season 16 winner, Courtney Robertson. I was one of those people that didn’t like Courtney after watching Ben Flajnik’s season and was skeptical of her authenticity. Well, she recently wrote a book, I Didn’t Come Here to Make Friends: Confessions of a Reality Show Villain, and if you are a Bachelor fan this is a must read!

My friend Tracy bought this book and let me borrow it and I couldn’t put it down! It definitely changed my opinion of Courtney and gave me a lot of insight into the show. Plus she divulges great secrets and behind-the-scenes tidbits.

During the first part of the book, she writes her memoirs up to this point and shares details about her previous relationships with Jesse Metcalfe, Adrian Grenier and her one and only date with Jim Toth. This was a great way to start, because you get to know her and get an idea of where she was at in life when she went on The Bachelor.

(Photo by Jon Kopaloff/FilmMagic)

Some of the highlights of the book include:

• Her real-time updates of what happened after the final rose ceremony after the cameras stopped rolling.

• How she got into modeling – she wasn’t always the confident girl you may have thought she was on TV.
• Tips from past Bachelor contestants including Jaclyn Schwartz, Kalon McMahon, AshLee Frazier, Casey Shteamer, Graham Bunn, Michelle Money, Chris Bukowski and Arie Luyendyk.
• Behind-the-scenes details of The Bachelor casting process.
• What the girls were really like in the house and a day in the life of a contestant.
• Her revelation that, yes, she did have sex in the ocean with Ben.
• What really happened in the fantasy suite.
• What is was like after the show stopped filming, before they went public.
• What Courtney and Ben’s relationship was really like and personal emails between them.
• Details of her relationship with hottie and potential future Bachelor, Arie Luyendyk.

My favorite part of the book, was on page 202, where she writes “He left to do a wine tasting event in Detroit but we would see each other in a week to tape ‘After the Final Rose.’ I was so excited. We were just two weeks away from coming out publicly as a couple.”

This is my favorite part because I was at that wine event in Detroit and I met Ben Flajnik and bought some of his Envolve wine. The event was held at Mon Jin Lau and they posted some photos from the event here. This was right before the finale, so I was too nervous to actually get a picture with him, but I did have him sign my wine bottles, which Tracy and I drank during the finale.

This is my best picture of Ben while we were waiting in line to meet him (again, horrible photo, but I felt weird taking pictures like a stalker):

I saved the wine bottles with his signature for posterity, lol:

You can read the prologue of the book for free here if you want a sneak peak before you buy. If you still aren’t convinced, here are three different interviews of Courtney talking about the book:

Courtney Robertson Reveals ‘Bachelor’ Secrets on The Juice

Courtney Robertson Interviewed by Lori Bizzoco | CupidsPulse.com

Courtney Robertson | Author Interview on Book Circle Online

If you’ve read the book, I would love to hear what you thought in the comments below.

Click the links to read my previous posts on The Bachelorette and The Bachelor.